- "69% of problems in marriages are perpetual and unsolvable. They occur because of the basic difference in personality and lifestyle differences between partners." - Dr John and Julie Gottman, relationship researchers and experts.
Couple's Therapy
It is time to stop visiting the same old arguments. If research tells us that many relationship problems are not solvable then the goal isn't conflict resolution, it is conflict regulation. Learn how to regulate your conflicts and solve the ones that you can with some guidance. Additionally, learn how to nurture your friendship and romance in a sustainable way which will help you get through the difficulties.
If you are new parents or parents who have recently expanded your family, you may be experiencing new challenges you had not encountered before. You may find your relationship changing in ways you hadn't anticipated or feel more disconnected than ever. By getting some help you can learn how to adjust to this new normal while preserving your love and intimacy.
I utilize the Gottman method in my work with couples. This approach is founded on strengthening your friendship and love maps in order to work towards better conflict regulation. Through their research the Gottmans have developed the Sound Relationship House Theory which you will learn about in our treatment.
What can you expect?
We initially meet together to identify what the major conflicts and stressors in the relationship are.
Then I meet with each of you individually one time to gain your perspective and understand your needs. The remainder of the treatment consists of the two of you in session together.
For your reference from the Gottman Blog:
Managing vs. Resolving Conflict in Relationships: The Blueprints for Success
"Trying to solve unsolvable problems is counterproductive, and no couple will ever completely eliminate them. However, discussing them is constructive and provides a positive opportunity for understanding and growth."
The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science
"That “magic ratio” is 5 to 1. This means that for every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy marriage has five (or more) positive interactions"
If you are new parents or parents who have recently expanded your family, you may be experiencing new challenges you had not encountered before. You may find your relationship changing in ways you hadn't anticipated or feel more disconnected than ever. By getting some help you can learn how to adjust to this new normal while preserving your love and intimacy.
I utilize the Gottman method in my work with couples. This approach is founded on strengthening your friendship and love maps in order to work towards better conflict regulation. Through their research the Gottmans have developed the Sound Relationship House Theory which you will learn about in our treatment.
What can you expect?
We initially meet together to identify what the major conflicts and stressors in the relationship are.
Then I meet with each of you individually one time to gain your perspective and understand your needs. The remainder of the treatment consists of the two of you in session together.
For your reference from the Gottman Blog:
Managing vs. Resolving Conflict in Relationships: The Blueprints for Success
"Trying to solve unsolvable problems is counterproductive, and no couple will ever completely eliminate them. However, discussing them is constructive and provides a positive opportunity for understanding and growth."
The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science
"That “magic ratio” is 5 to 1. This means that for every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy marriage has five (or more) positive interactions"